Do you feel like you’re performing during intimacy?
Do you feel disconnected from your body during sex?
I help you stop performing so sex becomes something you’re excited about.
This is for you if...
You’re successful in most areas of your life,
but when it comes to intimacy, something still isn’t working.
You know how to show up for others.
How to perform. Achieve. Hold it together.
But in sex or emotional moments,
you lose connection to yourself.
You want deeper intimacy…
but find yourself overthinking, shutting down,
or trying to “get it right” instead of actually feeling.
You’re not broken.
You’re just trying to do intimacy with tools that were never meant for it.
Curious what this could look like for you?
Start with a free conversation.
Hi, I’m Lauren
I help people reconnect to their bodies, their desires, and their voice, so intimacy feels natural, not something they have to perform.
You may feel disconnected like you’re getting it wrong, or you might feel like you have to perform instead of actually feeling.
I’ve been there too. For a long time! I felt disconnected from my body and didn’t understand what real connection felt like. That’s what led me into working with people to help them feel safe, connect with other, and confident within themselves.
I grew up in a religious, homeschooled environment where being “good” meant being selfless and contained. I learned my body was either something to hide and protect or give to someone else.
I learned how to show up for others… but for myself? Forget it! What a selfish thing to suggest.
I spent years giving, performing, and holding everything together while quietly feeling disconnected from myself - my body, my desire, and my sexuality.
From the outside, things looked “good.” Inside? I was so good at faking it, I hardly knew what real pleasure felt like. I was fairly uninterested in sex and chalked it up to low libido.
After my divorce, I made a different choice.
I stopped abandoning myself—and started claiming my body, my voice, and my eroticism.
Learning how to come back to myself — to feel, to want, to express changed everything.
Turns out, when you uncover and accept your deepest desires, you start having the sex you actually want. And guess what? You want more of it!
I learned intimacy isn’t something you have to guess or fumble through; it’s a set of skills you can learn and practice.
Now, I guide others through a similar process.
Not by advising from a distance, but by working with you in real time so you can actually practice intimacy, not just think about it. Not just talk about. We’ll feel it and practice it together.
I’m a board-certified sexologist trained in the Somatica® Method. I also spent far too long - years! - disconnected from myself, faking it, and dubbing it “being a good partner”. The credentials matter less than the fact that I’ve actually been where you are.
This work can be messy. You’ll probably cry. You might laugh at the absurdity of finally saying out loud what you’ve only ever thought (or if you’re like me, maybe you hardly permit yourself to have such a thought!). And somewhere in that mess, things start to shift. We start to uncover your eroticism, the core of who you are, and the portal to authentic intimacy.
Are you Struggling With...?
Are you Struggling With...?
Relating
How you connect, communicate, and show up
Expressing needs, boundaries, and desires clearly
Moving out of people-pleasing or shutdown patterns
Building emotional intimacy and connection
Repairing conflict and staying present through it
Exploring relationship structures (monogamy / non-monogamy)
Embodiment
Reconnecting to your body + internal experience
Getting out of your head and into your body
Understanding your emotional triggers in real time
Rebuilding trust with your body and sensations
Body image
Learning how to feel instead of perform
Sexuality
Desire, Pleasure, & Erotic Expression
Navigating low or mismatched desire
Releasing shame around sex and pleasure
Erectile unpredictability & performance anxiety
Expanding your erotic range (including kink)
Feeling more confident, present, and alive in sex
Frequently Asked Questions
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Sex coaching and sex therapy can overlap in some ways, but they often have a different focus and feel.
Therapy is often centered around understanding, processing, and healing past experiences and patterns. Coaching is more focused on the present: how you’re showing up now, what you want moving forward, and what it looks like to practice new ways of relating in real time.
My work is experiential, which means we’re not only talking about intimacy, communication, desire, boundaries, or relationships intellectually, we’re also exploring and practicing the skills that support them.
That might look like:
learning how to communicate a desire or boundary out loud,
noticing what happens in your body in moments of vulnerability,
exploring what actually turns you on or shuts you down,
practicing honesty, emotional expression, or relational repair in a grounded, supported space.
A lot of people already have insight into why they struggle. What they’re often missing is a space to practice something different.
Coaching is less about diagnosing you and more about helping you build awareness, embodiment, communication skills, and a deeper relationship with yourself and others.
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It’s completely okay to feel nervous.
For many people, sex, intimacy, desire, and relationships are things they’ve rarely had space to talk about openly, without shame, pressure, performance, or fear of being judged. So if you feel nervous coming in, you’re not alone.
The work is very client-led, and we move at your pace. You do not need to force yourself to share anything before you’re ready.
My role is not to push or overwhelm you, but to help create a grounded space where you can become more honest, connected, and comfortable with yourself over time.
A lot of clients are surprised by how quickly the nervousness softens once they realize they don’t have to “perform” here either.
Whatever you’re bringing, be it uncertainty, curiosity, fear, numbness, desire, awkwardness, excitement, it is all welcome.
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I’m trained in the Somatica Method, which is an experiential approach to intimacy, relationships, and sexuality.
That means our sessions aren’t just about talking about your life intellectually — they’re also about gently exploring new ways of relating, communicating, feeling, and showing up in real time.
You’ll come as you are and share what’s bringing you to coaching right now, what’s feeling difficult, and what you hope to experience more of in your relationships, sex life, or connection to yourself.
As we talk, we’ll begin to notice patterns, emotions, desires, fears, or relational dynamics that feel important or “alive” in the moment. From there, we may identify what I often call a growing edge: a place where there’s an opportunity for deeper awareness, healing, expression, or practice.
With your consent, I may guide you through an experiential exercise related to intimacy skills like:
communication,
boundaries,
emotional expression,
desire,
embodiment,
vulnerability,
or relational repair.
Sessions are conversation-based and fully clothed, and all experiential practices are collaborative and consent-based.
Afterward, we’ll reflect on what came up, celebrate any shifts or insights, and explore what felt meaningful, challenging, or new for you.
No two sessions look exactly the same. The work is collaborative, client-led, and responsive to what’s unfolding in real time.
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Not at all.
You never have to share anything you’re not ready to share. The work is very client-led, and we move at a pace that feels grounded and supportive for you.
At the same time, many people are surprised by how much they want to open up once they experience a space where they feel genuinely met without judgment, shame, or pressure.
A big part of this work is creating enough safety, attunement, and trust that vulnerability begins to feel less like something you’re forcing and more like something that unfolds naturally.
You are always allowed to slow down, pause, redirect, or say no. Your boundaries are deeply respected here, and I’ll be checking in with you along the way.
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Individual sessions are $100 per session.
I also offer a 6-session coaching container for $500 for clients who want more ongoing support and space for deeper exploration and practice over time.
While even one session can create insight or movement, intimacy, relationships, embodiment, and communication are often things we build through consistency, practice, and real time support, not just a single conversation.
Together, we’ll find a pace and structure that feels supportive for where you are and what you’re wanting to work toward.
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That’s completely okay. And honestly, very common.
A lot of people come into this work not knowing exactly what they need yet. They just know something feels disconnected, stuck, confusing, unsatisfying, or ready to shift.
Sometimes the first step isn’t having a perfectly clear goal. Sometimes it’s simply having the desire to explore yourself, your relationships, your sexuality, or the way you’ve been showing up.
That’s part of what the complimentary consultation call is for.
We’ll talk about what’s been coming up for you, what feels important, and what you may be longing for beneath the surface. From there, we can explore whether coaching feels supportive for you and what direction might feel most aligned moving forward.
You do not need to have everything figured out before you begin.
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